Friends - Easy Come - Easy Go
I had hoped when I reached this age, I would be smarter. It always comes as a surprise to me how little I understand. I saw a poster that said, “ There is no reason for fear. One must just understand.” Well I don’t.
In a discussion with my daughter, she shared that there are three kinds of friends. I like the idea of 3. It is clear and simple. I remember 10 commandments, 101 poems, 13 original colonies, and 7 effective habits. I had hopes for 3 friend types.
There are “reason” friends, “season” friends, and “life - long” friends according to Heather. I have many “reason” friends. I find them safe. Everyone knows who they are. I have friends with whom I play tennis, car pool, travel, and attend classes. Once those events passed, once the REASON was over, we no longer chat. “Reason” friends are only messy when you think a “reason friend” is a “life-long” friend.
“Seasonal” friends are those with whom I have shared many a mile. These are people who were connected from the inside out. These were folks with whom I shared turkey dinners, tears, and soul discussions. However, something happened to them. We lost one another along the way. I still have their names in my address book yet we only share silence. They are no longer present in my daily planner. Our paths no longer cross. These are folks I once knew. “Season” friends seem to drift away. Now you see them, now you don’t.
“Life-long” friends keep showing up. John Mc Donald said that the difference between a friend and an acquaintance is one has to keep editing one’s self in order for the acquaintance to like you. A lifelong friend is one who takes you as you are, the good, the bad and the ugly, and still thinks you are special. Some marriages are between acquaintances. Mc Donald says you can spend two hours with someone and develop a friendship that will last a lifetime.
Isn’t life interesting? I just find it so hard when someone who is a “reason” friend masquerades as a “life-long”. I ache when “seasons” change and sacred moments become discount store sale items. I just find it so difficult when a “life-long” dies. There are no replacements. Dr. John Brattner was right. Each year plant perennials and annuals. That’s tough to do in the middle of winter in Minnesota.
In a discussion with my daughter, she shared that there are three kinds of friends. I like the idea of 3. It is clear and simple. I remember 10 commandments, 101 poems, 13 original colonies, and 7 effective habits. I had hopes for 3 friend types.
There are “reason” friends, “season” friends, and “life - long” friends according to Heather. I have many “reason” friends. I find them safe. Everyone knows who they are. I have friends with whom I play tennis, car pool, travel, and attend classes. Once those events passed, once the REASON was over, we no longer chat. “Reason” friends are only messy when you think a “reason friend” is a “life-long” friend.
“Seasonal” friends are those with whom I have shared many a mile. These are people who were connected from the inside out. These were folks with whom I shared turkey dinners, tears, and soul discussions. However, something happened to them. We lost one another along the way. I still have their names in my address book yet we only share silence. They are no longer present in my daily planner. Our paths no longer cross. These are folks I once knew. “Season” friends seem to drift away. Now you see them, now you don’t.
“Life-long” friends keep showing up. John Mc Donald said that the difference between a friend and an acquaintance is one has to keep editing one’s self in order for the acquaintance to like you. A lifelong friend is one who takes you as you are, the good, the bad and the ugly, and still thinks you are special. Some marriages are between acquaintances. Mc Donald says you can spend two hours with someone and develop a friendship that will last a lifetime.
Isn’t life interesting? I just find it so hard when someone who is a “reason” friend masquerades as a “life-long”. I ache when “seasons” change and sacred moments become discount store sale items. I just find it so difficult when a “life-long” dies. There are no replacements. Dr. John Brattner was right. Each year plant perennials and annuals. That’s tough to do in the middle of winter in Minnesota.
Labels: acquaintances, family relationships, Friends
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